What You Need To Know About Tantrums of Your Teenage Kid

2016-09-14
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Being a parent is one of the most difficult experiences, especially in teenage when your child undergoes a plethora of hormonal changes. Words like, “I hate my life”, “I hate this family”, became normal. Sometimes you totally lose it and show your outrage on yourself because of your child’s anger and his mood swings. But keeping your outrage aside, try to take a walk in your little one’s shoes. You have been there and have done that. Teenage is a complicated phase. The mind of a teenager is in an incessantly changing state. They are growing up. They are looking at the world with new eyes, while going through changes. They are getting their first crush and going through their first break up. It is way too much right? Your responsibility as a parent comes into play at such times. Following are a few things we would like you to know about the temper tantrums of your teenage kid, which you must keep in mind no matter how angry your child is.

 

1.      Violent temper

Teenage is the time when your child where he goes through both mental and physical changes. You have to make sure that the surrounding of your child is safe and that nobody suffers harm when he loses his temper. Your kid might be stubborn, and might oppose you. Make it a point that you do not compete with his rage no matter what. Keep yourself calm and stay gentle to them. If you lose your temper and start yelling at them, chances are that things may get worst.


2.       Timing matters

In teen age mood swings are encountered in no time. If your kid is angry and there and then you point out his mistakes, you would be instantly expelled from their good books. If that happens, you can expect tough times for you, because children have a tendency to over think in teenage years, and the direction of their thinking might not be the positive one!

Instead of enumerating their mistakes when they are annoyed, wait for them to gain their composure back. Then you can tell them their mistakes (VERY PATIENTLY).


3.      Ask the problem (even if there is none)

Whenever your child seems upset, or when you find an uncertain reaction over normal things, ask them, “Are you alright! I can help you out”. Tell them that you love them and that they are special. When they seem sad in the evening, just sit beside them, and try talking to them in a friendly and concerned tone. Don’t be too bossy. This will eliminate the barrier between you and your child, and they will find it easy to communicate their feelings out to you. 

 

4.      The power of words

Even if you are frustrated to the core by your child’s behavior, try keeping your calm. Tell your child that it is normal to feel angry sometimes. It is more important for you to make your child understand the fact that your motive is his welfare. Instead of saying- “it’s my duty to teach you these things, that’s why I’m doing this”, you should say- “I’m doing this because I love you, I care for you.” Your teen may seem a little bit rough, rude or full of rage from outside, but the use of correct words will leave a positive impact on their mind.

 

5.      Extreme cases

In extreme cases, when your child seems to be more indulgent in violent tantrums, you can consider taking him to a therapist because sometimes it really helps. Often during teenage, because of constant nagging children consider their own parents to be their enemies. On the contrary, when someone else told them the same thing, they might be all willing to believe them all willingly.

 

As a parent, it is your duty to ensure that your child has wonderful and lovable memories of teenage that would stay with him for his lifetime. Just make sure that your child has their best memories to cherish.

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